Are You Afraid To Fail?
Failure sucks. In fact, I'd argue that it's one of the worst human experiences that happens to a person, but there's something out there that's even worse...
Since the beginning of humanity, mankind has survived by avoiding things that cause pain and discomfort. This used to mean keeping food away from scavengers and hiding from wild animals! As a result, our brains developed around the notion that anything that causes discomfort or pain as being bad.
Today, most people don't have to worry about lions attacking or critters stealing their food. We have modern homes, refrigerators, and Starbucks, lol.
But our brains are still in survival mode.
We all have goals that go beyond our current situation. From education to wealth to relationships, we desire so much more from life... and it scares the crap out of us.
The fearful survivor mode is hardwired into our minds so that whenever we even think about going back to school, starting a business, or even falling in love, anxiety fills us with stress and panic.
We become paralyzed by logic:
- I don't have enough money.
- What if no one else believes in me?
- I'm not smart enough.
- What if I mess up?
- I'm not attractive enough.
- What if people don't like me?
Our minds devise tons of reasons why pursuing these goals will be uncomfortable and tries to convince us that the pain of failure will "kill" us.
But you know what really kills our spirit? Regret.
Regret is even worst than failure because it's full of shoulda-woulda-coulda moments that were completely in our control.
- I should have looked into financial aid.
- I could have taken a class.
- I woulda fine if I let someone show me how to dress my best.
- I should have been more outgoing.
- If I would have started back then, I'd be better off now.
Yes change is scary and uncomfortable, but so is remaining in the same space financially/spiritually/physically/socially for the rest of your life!
I'm more afraid that I'll never get to travel the world than I am of having to find the money to do so.
I'm more afraid of living a dull monotonous life than I am of failing at business or trying a new career.
I'm more afraid of living paycheck to paycheck than I am of trying new methods to increase my wealth.
What are you really afraid of? Remind yourself of these things whenever you become anxious about positive change in your life.
Don't fear failure, fear regret.